Tuesday, December 21, 2010

The big V

On Friday B got a vasectomy. This was very necessary as E was conceived on an IUD. An IUD that is 99.4% effective and had been in place and effective for 2.5 years. The urologist was highly impressed with him. Not only did his boys make it past my "security" they did it at 41. Apparently he has super sperm. My super power is making milk. His is making babies apparently.

The entire appointment took about 25 minutes. Then he got to spend the weekend on the couch rotating bags of peas. He went back for his follow up yesterday and all looks good. He still has to take it easy this week and wear his scrotal support for a week. In his post-procedure instructions he was told to do light duty at work since he has a manual labor job, no sex for 10 days, and no arousal for 7 days.

Um, how is that possible? I can understand no purposeful arousal for 7 days and I can see how the first few days of discomfort and frozen man bits would prevent arousal, but what about closer to the end of the 7 days? Isn't this instruction like telling a man not to eat for 7 days asked my friend Vicki. This was my favorite instruction because it's just so bizarre and I don't get it. Turns out it's not possible to avoid.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Menu Plan Monday

I've been planning my menu ever since I started cooking and shopping. It's just so much easier to create a grocery list from a weekly menu. Now that I'm cooking for 5 people (2 of which really can eat) and trying to juggle a newborn it's even more important to plan a menu. I've been doing mostly crockpot meals with a few casseroles thrown in since home with E. She's a bit witchy during dinner time and with everything else going on with people coming home and needing things it's easiest for me to prep the meal in the morning when alone and when E naps and just pop it in the oven or put it on a plate.

Since we don't always have big A and S, there are some nights we have leftovers. When all of us are home, there are no leftovers.

I've linked up this menu to Menu Plan Monday over at Orgjunkie.com.

Sunday: Rotisserie chicken, 4 cheese mashed potatoes, Mediterranean veggie mix

Monday: Pizza casserole with cheese filled garlic bread sticks and salad

Tuesday: Crunchy chicken casserole, crescent rolls, broccoli

Wednesday: Leftovers from past 3 days

Friday: Leftover soup

Saturday: Brown sugar chicken, rice, spinach

Thursday, December 9, 2010

I'm having adjustment issues.

E is 3 weeks old now. Everyone seems to be adjusting to her well. I think I'm having the most issues adjusting.

I feel like little A hates me. I miss him. It was just the 2 of us for so long. Even once we moved in with B and the boys we still had lots of 1 on 1 time. Then I had the issues with swelling and it restricted my activity with him. I thought it would be better once the baby came. Physically it's much better, but now I can't get alone time with him. Now he hates me.

He woke up early this morning and came in the bedroom and said he was ready for school. I told him it wasn't time yet and asked if he wanted to watch cartoons for a while. I've been up since 2am and was hoping to get a short nap before we had to get going for the day. He didn't want to wait and asked if B would take him. B told him yes, but he had to get dressed and be ready to go in 10 min b/c he had to leave for work.

Now, every morning is a huge ordeal to get A to leave b/c he has a melt down w/ his clothes, his snack, getting up, etc. He ran right in his room and got dressed. Short issue over undies, but that's it. When putting his coat on I asked if he wanted me to pick him up early today so we could spend some time together. He said no, he wanted B to get him.

He never wants to do stuff w/ me anymore. :( If he has another choice of playmate he'll take it. I'm so sad. I feel like I totally screwed up our relationship. First I physically cant play a lot of things w/ him for a month or so. Now I can't get alone time to do stuff w/ him. This sucks. Right now I either want to rewind 6 months when I felt fine and E wasn't here yet or fast forward 6 months so that E is not in the newborn phase and I can leave her with someone else for 2 hours to take little A on a date.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

I will never shop Toys R Us or Babies R Us again.

After dropping little A off at daycare this morning, E and I headed to TRU/BRU. We had a few baby gifts to exchange at BRU and I wanted to finally Christmas shop at TRU. After getting E out and the bag of exchange items and heading in from the 25 degree morning, the store clerk would not take my exchange.

He told me I needed a gift receipt or a registry. When I explained I had neither and just wanted a store credit, he proceeded to tell me the store needed to "protect itself" and the items could have come from anywhere. I expressed my dissatisfaction at being punished for the lack of gift receipt since that's not my fault and pointed out that as the 5th child a registry was not appropriate. All he said was this was policy.

What a horrible policy! I am now stuck with a bag of brand new baby items that will never be used. While I appreciate the thought behind the gifts I'm so sorry that our friends and family have wasted their money on things that will end up as a goodwill donation.

Based on this policy and the clerk's response of protecting themselves, I will now shop at the other stores he pointed out this morning. My Christmas shopping will happen at Walmart or online for toys. Next time I have to buy a baby gift off of a BRU registry I will buy the registered for item(s) elsewhere.

Considering E is 2.5 weeks old and little a is 3, this is a long time for buying toys from somewhere else. Considering the number of kids we have, that's quite a bit of potential money from one family that is gone now. Obviously they will not care since they only want to "protect themselves." I cannot believe how poor their customer service has become.

I put in a complaint on their website. I'll let you know if there's a response. In the meantime, anyone need a bag of baby girl stuff brand new? ;)